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The how to give advice hierarchy is illuminating in the sense that it immediately brings to mind situations or people for each level.

This is something I've heard from a number of sources, most notably Adam Grant and Yuval Noah Harrari that it's important to first check if someone really wants your input or is looking for someone who'll just listen. One sign that someone is fishing for support (not so much looking for your opinion) is when they lead you with their view. The best description of this I've read is from Annie Duke, who calls this way of asking for advice 'infecting someone with your view.' Lastly, I think what is necessary on the part of the advice seeker is make explicit 3 things (your goals, your constraints, and your objectives/priorities). For example, your wife may ask you ' Should I keep these shoes or return them?' You'll say something based on how it looks, assuming how it looks is that matters. But your wife may be looking for comfort or for versatility or something else. When we give advice, we are tempted to believe that omission of information means something's not important. But that's not always the case. People simply forget, r they don't know better about how to ask for advice.

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Pritesh ...Your Monday morning treat is something that i look forward to...And believe me your contents is very unique in the sense that it touches really myriad topics.

Keep up the Josh and the vigour.

Like they say in the Armed Forces 'You can't keep a good guy down for long".

Kudos to the effort.

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